Dr Homer-Divorce Coaching

I help women to make bold decisions in times of change

Divorce-Identity-Career

Think – Better

Decide – Smarter

Grow – Stronger

Get excited for your future

Let's make bold decisions about change

Change can be scary and unwelcome, but it can also be a chance to re-discover who you are.

Coaching provides time and space for you to think about what needs to change and how you will do it. You will go from where you are now to the life that you want to live.

Working with me:

You will live your life based on your values (not someone else’s)
You will work out what you want your life to look, feel, sound, and be like
You will be able to make bold decisions
You will find your courage to go for what you really want
You will be able to do hard things
You will learn more about yourself and what you can achieve
You will have someone in your corner, who will celebrate your success and challenge your thoughts when you think that you have failed
You will have accountability and support to get stuff done

Who are you?

It is a simple question but we often struggle to answer it well. Do you state your name, job, relationship status, parental/daughter responsibility, or hobbies. Has the answer changed or is it the same as when you were in your 20’s?

I arrived in my 40’s and could not answer that question. I did not know where the young, independent woman with well defined hopes and dreams had gone. I was a mum, wife, and doctor who liked to spend time with friends and family, and be creative (if she had the time). Self-care was at the bottom of my “to do” list and I was rushing towards burnout. I was terrified of change, but I became curious and gradually started the journey to rediscover who I was.

Midlife is a time of great change for women. Responsibilities and relationship dynamics change at work and at home. Some of the changes are initiated by others and some are bubbling away inside you.

Peri-menopause and menopause can affect how you feel and that can have a huge impact on your confidence. You look different, feel different, and have little in common with the women who are employed to sell make up and clothes to us. It can be hard to work out how to fit in and when to stand out.

I have 3 questions for you:

Imagine that your problem is in the past. What does it feel like? (Think about what you can feel, see, and hear).
What do you want to change right now?
What will happen if you do nothing?

I will help you to find the courage to step out of the shadows and stride into the light.

Help me ...

I am not sure if I want to stay in my marriage. (Did you know that 2/3 of divorces are initiated by women and 43.9 is the average age of women getting divorced?)
I want to improve my relationship and renegotiate my boundaries
I want to change my job or career to fit in with my life, but I don't know how
I am worried about how much divorce will cost
I don't know who I am anymore
I feel like I am constantly fighting fires without making progress. I feel trapped in the sandwich of caring for ageing parents and children
I am sick of others telling me how I should think, feel and act. I feel stuck in a rut and fed up with doing the same things over and over again
I feel worried about my children leaving home and how that will change my identity as a mum
I have lost my confidence
I am uncertain of the future as I navigate divorce. I want to have a clear plan of where I am going
I don't have enough hours in the day

Join us in The Village community

I have created a FREE community by women for women.

This is a place where busy Midlife women, can take time out to recharge, learn something new and make friends. You will discover a group of women, who really get what it means to juggle work, home and the demands of being a midlife change maker.

As the community grows, the content will too. You will get:

• Instant access to a network of support

• Curated articles

• Original content

• The ability to follow topics, which interest you

• The ability to share ideas and ask questions

It’s more than just a workshop and it’s far better than a Facebook Group… This is a place for busy women who are feeling overwhelmed with the amount of “stuff” that Midlife has added to their daily life. Take a load off and grab your favourite drink. It’s time for some self-care in The Village

One-to-One Coaching Programmes

There are a variety of ways to work with me, click here to find out more.

What my clients say...

"Lucinda’s coaching helped me in so many ways, enabling me to achieve my short term goals by getting to the root of the things that were in my way. She was a warm, supportive and empathetic coach who had a wealth of experience so that I felt understood and safe enough to open up about the key issues. She also challenged me when needed to really get the breakthroughs and insights I needed, but always with a virtual arm around my shoulder so that I didn’t feel alone. I can’t speak highly enough about the whole experience which has helped my confidence enormously and really made a difference"

"I have felt very comfortable with your coaching style. I enjoyed the fact that you helped me understand the issues and that you empowered me rather than give me solutions only. The way you posed the questions to help me solve problems is very useful, so that I can continue to use this technique in general for new situations as well. In the long term I think I have improved and cleared the way I think, I have not had a problem with work but recently have had some life changes where I needed to rethink my strategy. I think in the long term the coaching will help me stop take stock and then restart with renewed strength. Overall I would definitely recommend contacting you for anyone who wants to improve their outcomes or set new goals in general."